Archive | May, 2013

Seven Stages of Grief

Seven Stages of Grief 1. Shock and Denial You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for weeks. 2. Pain and […]

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Understanding the Emotional Impact of Separation

By Susan Regan, MFT Members in my divorce support group have discussed what bad habits they get into in their long-term relationships. I’ve often heard folks say that their long term relationships have changed them. They stopped doing things that made them feel happy and started experiencing less joy in their life in general.  Group […]

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Intense Emotional States and What To Do With Them

By Susan Regan, MFT Oftentimes, we have intense emotional states and get flooded with the emotions. It’s important to understand why this is happening. Sometimes, we get flooded with past traumas, but it’s important to slow down and remember not to act or react during this time. People in our group described times that they […]

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The Law of Choice

By Susan Regan, MFT There is something called the law of choice where we have the ability to take responsibility and choose new interpretations that empower when trying to heal from divorce. We can take back aspects of ourselves that we have projected onto our mate. We can observe what self-defeating behavior we’ve displayed and […]

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Marriage Daily Dialogue Questions For Couples

By Susan Regan, MFT One of the things I have clients do regularly when they’re working on their relationships is to sign up for Marriage Daily Dialogue Question. I want them to see if any of these questions on this website could help them deal with some of the issues that are going on in […]

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Play Therapy

By Susan Regan, MFT Often times, parents ask me how therapy works. One of the ways I’ve been able to get a sense that your child’s therapy is working is well described in writings by authors and my colleagues. There is a stage where children do their deeper work during play therapy called the “deeper […]

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Group Endings

By Susan Regan, MFT In the groups that I lead, people often make deep connections by the end of the series. It is important to recognize that people come into the group for all different reasons: some people need support, some are having such raw emotions they need a place to go, some people need […]

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Seven Stages of Grief

By Susan Regan, MFT Seven Stages of Grief 1. Shock and Denial You will probably react to learning of the loss with numbed disbelief. You may deny the reality of the loss at some level, in order to avoid the pain. Shock provides emotional protection from being overwhelmed all at once. This may last for […]

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Ways to Avoid Putting Your Child in the Middle When Going Through Divorce

By Susan Regan, MFT This is an excerpt from the book Cooperative Parenting and Divorce: Shielding Your Child from Conflict — A Parent Guide to Effective Co-Parenting by Susan Boyan and Ann Termini. This book is dedicated to protecting the emotional health of your children from the difficulty in the transition process of divorce. I highly recommend […]

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How to Get Through a Difficult Day

By Susan Regan Chop Wood Carry Water This article will explain in more detail a Buddhist suggestion of what to do when going through a hard time. ________________________________________ “Put your heart, mind, intellect and soul even to your smallest acts. This is the secret of success.” Swami Sivananda ________________________________________ Work. What does the word mean […]

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