Archive | April, 2013

How is Your Marriage House?

By Susan Regan, MFT One of my favorite theorists, Gottman, writes about the sound relationship house. The sound relationship house is a really great model of trying to identify the patterns in your relationships and where the weak areas are. If we think of the relationship as a house, we have to build a foundation […]

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Children act different at home and in school

Parents often tell me and the teachers of their children that their child never acts at home the way they act at school. All behavior means something. Oftentimes kids are over stimulated at school, tired, hungry, or busy trying to keep up with their peers. One of the things that could help them is if they have a consistent and concrete […]

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Date of Divorce

In our group we often talk about the date of their divorce. People are often full of anxiety when they reveal that they have received the date which their divorce process has been finalized. Typically, in the state of California, it takes 6 months and 1 day. However, it often takes people a lot longer […]

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Needs

Another question that was put in the daily dialogues was, “What are my needs and how does my answer make me feel?” Often times we have unmet needs in relationships and if we have too many of these unmet needs in our marriage, it leads to us not wanting to stay in the marriage any […]

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